Articles
Raising Responsible
Children
By: Maureen O'Donnell,
M.S., LPC
Besides showering our children with
love and support, training them to be independent, capable adults is
the objective of parenting. Below is a guide that will help you in
gradually increasing responsibility over the years.
Ages 3 to 4: Younger
children need the most guidance, including many reminders.
- Dress self and possibly pick out
clothes
- Put toys away—pick them up after
playing
- Throw own trash in wastebaskets
- Help set table, help clean table,
help stir cake mix or cookie dough
- Put dirty clothes in hamper
- Close all drawers in room or close
low kitchen drawers
Ages 5 to 6:
Children continue to need many reminders.
- Dress self-definitely pick out own
clothes
- Keep clothes straightened in dresser
and closet
- Make bed
- Pick up room, put away games, toys,
and clothes
- Take out trash
- Dust
- Water Plants
- Take out trash
- Help put away groceries
- Set and clean table
- Help with meal preparation
- Help with pet care
Ages 7 to 8:
Children continue to need many reminders.
- Sweep floors or vacuum carpets
- Rake, help shovel snow
- Help with yard work
- Walk the dog, feed the pets
- Wash, dry, and put away dishes
- Fill and empty dishwasher
- Help at mealtime
- Keep room clean
Ages 9 to 10:
Children continue to need many reminders.
- Keep room clean including vacuuming
and dusting
- Straighten up other rooms in house
- Fold and put away laundry
- Help with washer/dryer given
guidance
- Wipe down bathroom
- Take out trash
- Help with meals or create simple
meals
- Wash the car
Ages 12 and over:
Children continue to need many reminders.
- Mow the lawn
- Shovel snow
- Wash windows
- Wipe up bathroom, clean toilet
- Keep room more thoroughly clean
including dusting, vacuuming, changing bedding, etc.
- Plan meal
- Help cook or cook the meal with
guidance
- Help watch younger siblings
Remember, the most loving thing you can
do is give your child responsibilities and then hold them accountable,
giving verbal appreciation as they rise to your expectations.
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Counseling Associates
